
What’s the “better way” to face the grief of relationships broken by death?
Unlike the weak and wishful platitudes offered at funerals by those “who have no hope,” believers handle their grief differently—because, as we often say at these times, we will see them again.
I’d like to take this post to note the source of this hope, something I have done explicitly only one other time, I think, since this blog began almost eight years ago. Time to correct that underemphasis.
The source of this hope is the gospel.
The God who is eternally love (1J 4.7-8) has made us in his image (Ge 1.26-27) and therefore love-oriented as well (1J 4.11). He has designed us to be loved by him, and to love him, even as we love others through close relationships.
But there’s a problem.
We humans—all of us, since the beginning of time—have resisted God’s love by disobeying his will (Ro 3.23). And that resistance, called sin, has prevented that close, intimate, loving relationship with God for which he designed us. We have replaced this highly privileged relationship with love for ourselves and love for our sin (Ps 14.1-3).
But there’s good news.
God still loves us (Jn 3.16), though he is repelled by our sin (Is 59.2). He lovingly offers us a solution to the problem that we started: forgiveness, no matter how deep or wide or intense or violent or disgusting our sin may be. No one is beyond the reach of this loving forgiveness.
How can he do this? Because he has initiated and then taken action to neutralize our sin problem. He won’t just ignore it; that would be unjust, and he is perfectly just. Instead he addresses it directly.
Remember that eternal, loving relationship within the Godhead? Those persons agree on a just way to neutralize our sin. The Son chooses to pay the judicial penalty for it. Now, the penalty is death, and God cannot die; so the Son agrees to become human—to be incarnated—and then to die in our place (He 2.14). And those who repent of their sin and accept, by faith, that substitute payment (or “vicarious atonement”) will have their sins erased, and the barrier to an intimate relationship with God is removed (Ro 10.9-11).
Only those who believe? What about the others?
Well, what do we think about someone who forces a relationship on us? We call him a stalker, or simply one who doesn’t respect our boundaries. A forced relationship is not a genuine relationship at all.
The relationship is freely offered, but not unwilling. It’s bilateral, in the sense that it is not forced.
The gospel continues. The relationship grows and matures over time, and even death doesn’t end it; in fact, death expands it infinitely and eternally (2Co 5.1-10).
That’s Good News. Gospel.
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